The Confidence I Lack

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Skillsyouneed.com says, “Confidence comes from the feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (self-esteem) and belief in your own ability, skills and experiences.” This statement cannot be more true. If someone is only missing one part of this is can cause them problems with their confidence. If that imbalance isn’t corrected or helped it could cause major problems in the future as well. They also say that confidence issues can be caused by a hand full of things, some of them being ones I have personally experienced like being criticized and failing in the past.

For as long, as I can remember I’ve never had much confidence in myself. No matter what I’ve done, who I’ve spoken to, I’ve never felt like I had a reason to be confident in myself. I’ve always thought that I could never be as good as the people around me. Everyone around me seems so sure and confident in what they are doing all the time. Sometimes I watch others around me and wonder how they can be so confident all the time.

I try not to spend time dwelling on the fact that I do have such low confidence and self-esteem but this semester is causing me to have to face it. I try not to do things that will cause people to criticize me or make me seem like a failure, but this semester is causing me to come out of my comfort zone a lot. Not only am I having to put myself in situations where I will be critiqued by my classmates but it also may make me look like a failure if I don’t do my work correctly. It’s also causing me to have to deal with my insecurities. I’m also having to put all my experiences and some work on a LinkedIn profile where anyone across the world can see it.

My advisor told me that I need to be more confident in myself. That there honestly isn’t reason, that she can see, for me not to have some confidence in myself. It’s like I’m finally have this big wakeup call and I’m not really, sure how I feel about it yet. In truth, I hope that through the LinkedIn profile and the weekly critiques from my classmates I’ll be able to gain a little more confidence in myself to help me succeed in the future.

 

Photo Credit: Kenny Santos

LinkedIn

It’s amazing how advanced today’s society has become through the years. The world went from having to write letters to each other and wait days, weeks, months, sometimes years for a reply to being able to send a text to someone across the USA and get a reply in seconds. So, it also means that the way people gain connections with others and how quickly people get their job history and resumes out to employers has become more efficient. That’s where LinkedIn comes into play; it is a place where people leave their resumes, connect to people around the world, gain connections to people who can help advance someone else’s future, and to help employers find jobs.

When I first heard of LinkedIn, I had no idea what it was or what it was for. But once I learned a little more about it I thought it was a great idea. It’s awesome that an employee can get their resume to an employer all the way across the USA if need be.

The whole idea of having people around the world see your personal resume is kind of nerve racking. Especially if your resume isn’t as developed as others. It also makes me nervous that I may put something unintelligent on my profile which would make me look bad to possible employers. I am also nervous about filling it out, I’ve never really been good at knowing what I’m good at or what my skills are. I’m not confident in myself enough, so it makes me nervous.

For my LinkedIn profile, I’d like to be able to know what skills I have. I’d like to be able to figure out my best qualities. I’d like to update my resume and make it better. Hopefully, I’ll be able to become more connected to other people like we discussed in class. Lastly, I would like to build my soft skills, mostly my communication skills. I tend to shy away from speaking to people, and when I do talk to others I tend to get extremely nervous, especially if I’m talking to someone I don’t know or am not very comfortable with.